This is my fourth in a series of five blog entries – one week inside the application reading process at Holy Cross.
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Because your parents said so
Whether you know it or not, many of your parents have written us letters. You see, we are one of a few schools that welcome letters from applicants’ parents. The point is, as our letter to your parents states, that “we attempt to learn as much as possible about each applicant, both academically and personally.” As I’ve been reading some of these letters today, I’ve been wondering if student have any idea of what their parents are saying about them.
As you might imagine, most of these letters take on a similar tone. They are reflective and proud, laudatory and nostalgic. They tell of premature births, broken arms, undefeated seasons and straight A’s. But, often the most valuable stories are much smaller than that – a kind word to a younger sibling, a smart decision made in the face of peer pressure and chores done at grandma’s house.
I often wonder if parents show these letters to their children. I’ve often wondered what it would be like if we included a copy of this letter in the envelope with our admissions decision letter. I have no doubt the effect it would have on students. The decision that a room full of strangers had made on their application would suddenly seem far less significant – the letter of acceptance would seem less momentous and the letter of denial would carry less sting if students truly knew how proud their parents were of them.
So here you are – all your applications have been submitted and now you await your admissions decision. You’ve got some time on your hands. Say “thank you” to your parents for all their support through this process. I promise you, if you do, they just might tell you how proud they are of you.
Associate Director of Admissions
