{"id":69,"date":"2011-11-14T16:12:28","date_gmt":"2011-11-14T16:12:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/careerplanning.me.holycross.edu\/?p=69"},"modified":"2011-11-14T16:12:28","modified_gmt":"2011-11-14T16:12:28","slug":"think-youre-a-good-flirt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/2011\/11\/14\/think-youre-a-good-flirt\/","title":{"rendered":"Think you&#8217;re a good flirt?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In talking with friends about job\/internship interviews, the number one thing people mention is the nerves.<\/p>\n<p>It makes sense: you&#8217;re trying to remember everything you can about the company, to fit your best experiences into the interviewer&#8217;s questions and you&#8217;re sitting uncomfortably to disguise the stain on your shirt from the coffee you spilled in Cool Beans pre-interview.<\/p>\n<p>Phew.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s a lot to think about, but I think the trick to interviewing well is to take a step back and remember this secret:<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #9932cc\"><strong>If you can flirt, you can interview.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4 class=\"mceTemp\"><\/h4>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Flirting is all about letting the other person know you&#8217;re interested, while appearing interesting yourself. You&#8217;re trying to persuade them that you would be a great match without jumping over the table and screaming &#8220;CHOOSE MEEEEEEEE!&#8221; (Note: desperation does not read well in either professional or social settings.)<\/p>\n<p>Bottom line: you want to let the other party know that you think they got it goin&#8217; on, while letting them know that you got it goin&#8217; on too.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #9932cc\"><strong>Interviewing is the same thing.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Obviously, your tone, language, content and attire should be different in both situations. Batting your eyelashes, talking about your favorite &#8220;That&#8217;s What She Said&#8221; joke and wearing your latest Forever 21 minidress may work on any given Thursday at Overtime Tap, but a professional\u00a0 suit and knowledge of the industry are going to get you a lot further in the board room.<\/p>\n<p>That being said, you do want to let your personality show through in an interview.\u00a0 <span style=\"color: #9932cc\">You don&#8217;t want to come off as buttoned up as your suit<\/span>; you want to show that you&#8217;re a real,\u00a0 interesting,\u00a0likable\u00a0person who is not only a great candidate, but would make a great coworker. \u00a0Most often recruiters want to hire people that they want to work with.<\/p>\n<p>So how can you translate your flirting skills into interview ones? Some general pointers:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><span style=\"color: #9932cc\"><strong>Smile and look the interviewer in the eye<\/strong>.<\/span> Simple. Effective.<\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #9932cc\"><strong>Take your time<\/strong>.<\/span> If you need a minute to think about a question, simply say &#8220;That&#8217;s a good question. Let me think about it for a moment.&#8221; There&#8217;s no harm in pausing. It&#8217;s better to collect\u00a0 your thoughts than to end up rambling for 10 minutes about something off topic. (Ever have this happen to you on a date? It&#8217;s uncomfortable.)<\/li>\n<li><strong><span style=\"color: #9932cc\"><strong>Dress up<\/strong>.<\/span><\/strong> Again, you get ready for a night out; do same thing for an interview. Just make sure to leave anything you&#8217;d wear to the bars stays at home. Tips for guys and girls work-appropriate dress<a href=\"http:\/\/bit.ly\/te390j\"> here<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #8a2be2\"><strong><span style=\"color: #9932cc\">Humor (when appropriate) is good.<\/span> <\/strong><\/span>You have to read the situation with this one; if your interviewer seems welcoming, adding a lighthearted story about your crazy commute at your previous internship (for example) adds another layer of depth to your application. <span style=\"color: #8a2be2\"><span style=\"color: #000000\">People like people who make them laugh.<\/span><br \/>\n<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #9932cc\"><strong>Pretend you&#8217;re Kanye West<\/strong>.<\/span> Fake confidence until you feel it. Tap into your inner Kanye for inspiration to be your most confident self. Note that there is a fine line between confident and cocky. Yes you are a great candidate; no you are not God&#8217;s gift to accounting\/marketing\/nonprofits. Remember, likability is important too!<\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #9932cc\"><strong>Ask questions<\/strong>.<\/span> Everyone likes to talk about themselves.\u00a0 Prepare <span style=\"color: #9932cc\"><a href=\"http:\/\/careerplanning.me.holycross.edu\/2011\/03\/30\/10-questions-to-close-an-interview\/\">some questions<\/a><\/span> to ask ahead of time so you&#8217;re not at a loss for when the interviewer turns questioning over to you.<\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #9932cc\"><strong>Follow up<\/strong>.<\/span> If you like someone, you&#8217;d text or call after to say you enjoyed talking with them, right? Same thing goes with interviews. Send a thank you note or email within 24 hours of the interview and mention something specific you talked about to personalize it further.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Follow these tips and gain confidence to nail that interview! Who knows, you may work up the courage to finally ask out the hottie in your Sociology class as well!<\/p>\n<p>. . . . . . . . .<br \/>\nWant to put these tips to work before the big interview? <a href=\"http:\/\/offices.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/services\">Schedule a mock interview<\/a> with Career Planning.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In talking with friends about job\/internship interviews, the number one thing people mention is the nerves. It makes sense: you&#8217;re trying to remember everything you can about the company, to fit your best experiences into the interviewer&#8217;s questions and you&#8217;re sitting uncomfortably to disguise the stain on your shirt from the coffee you spilled in &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/blogs.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/2011\/11\/14\/think-youre-a-good-flirt\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;Think you&#8217;re a good flirt?&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[166],"class_list":["post-69","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-interviews"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/69","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=69"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/69\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=69"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=69"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.holycross.edu\/careerplanning\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=69"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}